Don’t Delude Yourself Into Problems

After doing the completion process, there will be so much clarity and understanding. You will feel reborn and no longer shackled to the emotional baggage you’ve previously subjected yourself through for so long. This contrast is exactly what life is: going through a situation and when realizing the solution, understanding there was never a problem. In truth, everything you feel about life and yourself is nothing more than a projection. We don’t see stars as they are currently, we are looking at them as they were in a point in their past. The light simply takes a long time to reach us. In the same way, we don’t see ourselves currently, we see ourselves in relation to our past. Whether it’s positive or negative, there isn’t right and wrong. There simply is.

In-completions do not create dilemmas or problems. They create delusions. These delusions become the ruler with which you measure and compare experiences. It’s through this lens that you experience problems. When you remove the in-completion, you see a larger scope of reality. That doesn’t mean new in-completions can’t emerge. There is one piece of truth that must be told, and that is don’t assume every problem and issue you have with yourself is a product of your in-completions and environmental triggers. No problem comes from outside of you.

There is a simple answer. That is, all big dilemmas in life are caused by casual thoughts. Don’t ever think desperation, anxiety, and dilemmas are caused by the depth of your in-completions. By thinking this, you will only add on another in-completion. Your over-thinking and over-analysis generates this bi-product of dilemma. Not only does all that over-thinking create these problems, it uses up glucose that your brain uses for other functions. This results in feeling tired and lethargic.

Simply, being aware is enough to put some of those dilemmas to rest. Meditate. Smile. Be active. Complete.

The Conspiracy of the Ego: Part 7.

By this point, you should feel as if a large load has been lifted off your shoulders. Perhaps the reliving portion hasn’t completely set in, but that is okay. Keep trying and persist until the emotions from that event leave your system.

The final step in the completion process may be a challenge for most people. For the final step, you must confront the people or person that’s involved in your in-completions.

For many people, this step will be neglected which isn’t terrible, but it is this step that will truly liberate you and the other party.

When you talk to the other person, you ask them to simply listen to what you have to say. Talk about each relevant event and what you went through. When you do this, don’t attack, hurl abuse, or harm them in any way. You tell them the situation in the space that you experienced it and as objective as possible. Use phrases like “I felt like….”, “When *this* happened, I did *this*”, and so on. At the end of your talk, firmly declare to yourself and the other that you’ll never allow this emotion or experience to interfere with your life again. Chances are the other person will respond in 4 ways:

1. The other person will have been also affected by the experience and will also want to say something about it. Usually, they will also feel very relieved at the end.
2. The other person will feel offended and try to attack or insult you. Don’t entertain the other part when this happens; just thank them for listening and give them space.
3. The other person will be confused as to why you’re even talking about this. You can tell them the truth. Keep it personal.
4. The other person won’t care.

Regardless of the reaction, this exercise gives both parties some form of relief. This is ultimately to give you a deeper sense of closure and really get rid of the engrams that remain in your bio-memory. Do this with emotion, you have to feel the emotions rise when you confront the other party. In the event that the other party is deceased, you can use a picture of them.

This completion process is not created by me. I learned it from my master, Paramahamsa Nithyananda, and am simply spreading the technique for all to use. My master himself also is not the creator of this technique. It can be found in the Agamas, one of the Hindu scriptures.

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The Conspiracy of the Ego: Part 6.

So far in the Completion Process, we have went over the following:

1. What are the inner, outer, others’ and life images we have
2. What are the inner, outer, others’ and life images we want to have
3. The emotions that are in the gap of the images we have and the images we want
4. The associated experiences and senses that get triggered

We have written all of these down in detail and given the amount of integrity and authenticity you’ve put, even more memories and feelings should have surfaced. Chances are you have figured out there are a lot of contradicting feelings and ideas you have internally. The way you want to be is nowhere near where you are currently. It’s your decision to allow these emotions and experiences to hold you back from expressing the self you want to project. So now that at least most of the major incidences have been exposed, what do we do next?

Simply, you will relive each incident. Reliving is relieving.

In mediation, you will go back to each incident. Go back to that point in time, relating to the best of your ability the age, the mindset, the beliefs, the clothes, the senses, EVERYTHING that happened in that moment.

I have to make this clear: remembering is NOT reliving! Don’t listen to your mind when it tries to rationalize the feelings or experience!

The difference between remembering and reliving is time. When you remember, you don’t relate anymore to that part of your past because time has passed and your dimensions have changed. When you relive, you assimilate those dimensions of your past and go through what it is you went through. This is the most difficult part of the process because we may have forgotten a lot of the details. The idea is to assimilate as much as you can and consciously go through the experience again and again until the emotions associated with that memory pass through your system.

There will be times when emotions easily slip out of you. There will also be moments when traumatic events are relived in the body. You will go through the emotional turmoil and that is the point. Consciously be aware of this, but allow the emotions to come out. Don’t hold back. Just observe yourself, your mind, and whatever it is you are going through. Observe the same way you would observe a familiar stranger going through hard times, without judgement or input. Simply allow it to happen in you.

A few other things:

You will have to relive the experiences more than once, at least 5 times. The emotions need to be broken down to the point they no longer have any control over your will.

Be comfortable and well-rested when you do this.

Your mind will try to take you away from the process by justifying the experiences. It will tell you that it’s not your fault, you were young, it was a long time ago, you learned from your mistakes, etc…DO NOT HEED YOUR MIND. GO THROUGH WITH THE PROCESS. If those experiences really didn’t matter anymore, they wouldn’t be affecting the choices you make and the experience you undergo now. There is no relationship between the experiences of ‘You’ in the past and the experiences of ‘You’ now.

If you do this exercise intensely, consciously, and authentically, you should feel lighter mentally and physically. You should feel as if loads of weight have been removed from your system. Many people also undergo physical changes. In my experience, my lower-body increased in flexibility. The thoughts that you have have an effect on your physical body, they create blockages and can remove them as well.

There is still one more part…

Share your experiences in the comments!

 

 

 

 

The Conspiracy of the Ego: Part 5.

So far in the completion process, we have reflected and written down what is in our totality of images as well as the ideal images we want to embody and radiate. For many, there will be more differences than similarities. Ultimately, we want to take the parts that make us feel weak and powerless and change them in order to change our limiting beliefs and cognition. We want to be congruent across all four images.

Now that we’ve written what we currently have and what we want, we have to go to the next part. This section of the process deals directly with the emotions, thoughts, and senses that come to us when we think of each statement. Let us work with the example, in my inner image, I cognize that I am shy and quiet. In my outer image, I cognize that I am extroverted and talkative. When I engage in the behavior of socializing, the friction between these two images will occur in. I feel that I’m not being ‘myself’ (inner image) and my outer image will constantly interrupt me and say how I am not being myself, that I should just stick to listening and not interrupt those who are talking. In truth, it’s not even required that you have a statement about yourself. The whole point of this exercise is to find out which parts of you aren’t integrated (and believe me when I say there is a lot of parts that need to be handled.) If you notice that there is a congruence that you don’t like (outer image is “I am a nobody” and others’ image is “I am a nobody”) then you are more than obligated to your higher self to change it immediately. So how do we fix these in-completions? This is the part where you ‘face yourself’.

First, reflect on the image you want to have, that makes you feel powerful, free and ever-expansive. Then, refer to the image that you have. When you experience the image you currently have, there will be phrases, emotions, and memories that come rushing through your system that may contradict what you want. This ‘gap’ is what you’re going to be bridging. Understand that all these emotions and feelings stem from events in your life that shape the way you see yourself and others.

For each statement you wrote for your current images, write down everything that pops up in your mind. It’s important that you write as vividly and detailed as you possibly can. This can be in the form of sense experiences, things certain people said to you (or you told yourself), events of things that happened, even illogical things (you might think of a toy, a TV show, game, or something completely random.) The mind is powerful, but it isn’t rational or logical in the way we think of it. Whatever comes up, extract it from the mind and put it in writing so you can see the baselessness of it.

Chances are there will be some traumatic events, events that you want to suppress and never recall again. It doesn’t take a counselor to remind you that anything repressed doesn’t stay down forever and will become a huge drive in the guilt and fear one experiences in their life. Write it as consciously and as detailed as possible.

*Please leave a comment or message me if you have any questions, comments, concerns, or insights thus far. We still have another few parts to go over!*

 

 

The Conspiracy of the Ego: Part 4.

We went over the first part of the completion process, which is to write EVERYTHING that we feel in our respective inner image, outer image, others’ image, and life image, and to be honest with ourselves. When you write down your thoughts and feelings on paper, you begin to see with a little more clarity the ideas you have about yourself instead of trying to juggle these images in your mind. When you really observe these beliefs you carry about yourself, chances are the majority of beliefs are complete opposites.

For instance, your outer image may say something like, “I am relaxed, calm, and insightful.” However, your inner image may say something along the lines of “I am nervous and confused.” These images are completely contradictory, not integrated. This reflects many of the actions you take. Your outer image may decide to be more social and you want to change, but your inner image says to you that you cant change, you’re an introvert! (This is what you would call the id to the ego.) This gap is the root cause of ALL your self-doubt.

Differences between your outer image and others’ image lead to what ultimately becomes self-hatred. For example, someone might say that they are very outgoing, talkative and sociable. They engage with others and are highly interactive. Others’ image can vary. There will be people who will perceive the same thing, there will also be people that don’t really care. Of course, there will be others that perceive you’re annoying or insecure. They want you to be a different way. It’s important that you understand that this explicitly doesn’t create an in-completion. If someone says something to you that is the opposite of the way you perceive yourself and that makes you feel weak and powerless, that becomes an in-completion. You’ll always feel that you are never enough for yourself or anyone else.

When talking about others’ image, it can be what others think about your or what others want you to be (My friends think I’m introverted and quiet, which fits my outer image because I usually keep to myself. My mom wants me to find a job like everyone else, but I don’t want to make money that way.) Life image concerns your beliefs and ideas about how others should be. The contradictions from these two images lead everyone to self-denial. A personal example of this would be in my others’ image, others say that I should speak up more and state an opinion to get my voice heard. In my life image, I feel others spout their opinions nonsensically without getting anything done, talk is cheap without action. When contrasts are this different and I feel powerless about it, this gives rise to self-denial. When we hear others say something about us about how we should be and it doesn’t fit our image, the in-completion occurs when we feel hopeless about it.

The next question that gets asked is, “From where do these differences arise?”

Before I reveal that, on a separate sheet of paper, write down what you want to be and hold in your inner, outer, others’, and life image. Whatever it is you want to be about you, whatever it is you want to project to others, whatever it is you want others to cognize about you, and whatever it is you want to cognize about life, just write it down. Don’t be afraid of what you want.

The Conspiracy of the Ego: Part 3.

The individual Atman can be divided into 4 parts.

The Inner Image – the way that you think, feel, believe, perceive about yourself. This includes personal descriptions (I am tall, smart, attractive, ugly, weak, depressed, shy, extroverted, a doctor, easily distracted, weird, a loner, popular…) ANYTHING and EVERYTHING you cognize about yourself.

The Outer Image – the way you project yourself to others, any image of yourself you assume yourself as towards family, friends, strangers, animals, and so on. (I am relaxed, down to earth, shy, introverted, happy, intelligence, more rational than ___,just a child…) ANYTHING and EVERYTHING you project yourself to be to others.

The Others’ Image – the way others perceive you. These are the judgements, ideas, expectations, and opinions that others have about you, whether or not you are aware of them. (He/She is silly, fun, cute, annoying, quiet, stupid, a loser, cool, fun to be around, strange, creepy, should be doing _____,…) ANYTHING and EVERYTHING others feel about you.

The Life Image – the way you cognize and believe about life. Your general idea and feelings towards life and meaning of existence. (Life is great, okay, so-so, terrible, life, unfair, who cares, nothing, meaningless…) ANYTHING and EVERYTHING you feel towards life.

(The reason I put anything and everything in caps is because there are images and beliefs you have that you feel don’t have an influence on other aspects in your life. However, like your body systems, every part of you is connected.)

What others call ego is a conflict between images, which create in-completions. There is no other force acting in the individual besides you, the Atman. In-completions occur as a result of feeling weak, angry, confused, irritated, any negative association that makes you feel POWERLESS in ANY situation. Unfortunately, there are a lot of conflicts that stem from events in your life which you identify yourself as. This false association leads to the creation of these in-completions. Even with intellectual understanding and time between events, emotion and fear will always hold a tighter grip until it’s been faced and melted down in your system. It is this phase of seeking that traps and deludes all seekers. The toughest part of the spiritual journey is going through these in-completions in the self, making oneself complete, reaching the state of origin (enlightenment).

 

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The Completion Process, Part 1

You will need:

a note book, a pencil, time for yourself, and a space where you can’t be bothered.

For each image, write down everything that you belief and identify with, each image being on a separate page.

No matter how silly or insecure you may feel, just write it down. Never try to sugar coat anything you say.

Do this with authenticity and honesty.

Whatever you write down should be written the way you would say it to yourself: raw.

Whatever you write is for your eyes only.

 

The Conspiracy of the Ego: Part 2.

So if there’s no ego, then what is the self?

In Sanskrit, there is an idea of the self, called the atman. It undergoes experiences to realize the atman’s true self in order to reach moksha, which is liberation. Throughout the atman’s journey, it experiences so many events and phenomena, given labels such as birth, milestone, dilemma, tragedy, crisis, miracle, and so on. Seen simply as happenings, the atman retains the experience and the associated emotions and feelings become engrams in the bio-memory of the body. The stronger the emotion, the more prominent it shows in the individual’s thoughts, behaviors, and actions.

Unfortunately, humans are more inclined to relate and link together negative experiences. Humans have an innate desire to perceive patterns so they can make a meaning and relate with it. This process is so deep-rooted that it becomes the default process of cognizing experiences for many. As a result, the self-created ‘ego’ becomes more and more powerful. The ego becomes real.

There is more than one way to look at an individual, in relation with themselves, others, and mind. However, there is also an optimal way to look at an individual. Are you aware of the default settings you carry?

“Mind is trained from a very young age to think that life moves from one worry to the other or from one pain to another, never from one joy to another. If you feel there is something wrong with what you are seeing, then you should look back in at yourself because what you see outside is only a reflection of what is inside you.” – H.H. Sri Paramahamsa Nithyananda Swami

The Conspiracy of the Ego: Part 1.

I’m sure you’ve heard of the ego, as many people falsely associated with the self. In context to Sigmund Freud’s idea of psychoanalysis, ego is the self, constantly in dilemma with the id and superego. A grossly simplified explanation is the self is in constant dilemma with the devil and angel, both of which are construed within the individual. For many, this idea is easy to understand and relate with because it puts into perspective what a problem is and where it comes from.

The belief and association to the ego is problematic. Among the mass, the word ‘ego’ has  negative connotations, being selfish and full of desire. Guilt is a common feeling that comes as a result of associating the self as the ego. Outside of many people’s awareness, this idea of ‘ego’ creates a story-like interpretation of the individual that creates a form of feeling of accomplishment in life. This is detrimental to the individual self because it creates a general sense of justifying poor dispositions and outcomes and as a result, it allows complacency.

There is nothing wrong with having desires and wanting ‘more.’ As an existential being, you’re entitled to the universe and what it has to offer. However, there’s something wrong with greed and over-consumption.

There is nothing wrong with feeling afraid, fearful, or embarrassed. In some point of your life, an event has occurred in which these engrams have been placed in your bio-memory. However, there is something wrong with realizing it and not taking action to remove the engrams from your system.

You are NOT your experiences.

Your experiences are NOT related in any way, you’ve just created a time-line association.

You are NOT required to act upon a thought or idea.

You are NOT required to run your life.

You are NOT the ego.