You Will Never Find Yourself

How many times have we heard from others to try new things and go to new places in order to find ourselves? How often do we feel lost in our lives and ‘look’ for who we are?

As the phrase never really made sense to me, my personal question is ‘What exactly are you supposed to be looking for?’ Are you looking for what you like? What you’re good at? What interests you? What makes you feel fulfilled?

The reason why I address this quote is because it’s very misleading and is likely one of the many reasons people are complacent with the lives they live.

What I am saying doesn’t refer to the quote in itself. What I am referring to is the belief system that supports and is supported by this idea.

How can you find what exists outside of you? Even if you find it, is it you? How do you know?

What happens if you don’t ever find that which makes you who you are?

If we follow the the idea that out external projections are a reflection of what’s inside us, you and your ideas are all created.

Your created this idea of ‘finding yourself.’

There is no finding yourself; you can only create yourself.

You won’t always be able to find what you’re looking for, but you can always create what it is you want.

You are a creator. A creator who has forgotten their true ability.

Take action and create who you want to become.

 

Maybe you have a different idea on this phrase. Please comment below and share your take on the phrase and how it serves you.

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Am I A Lousy Communicator?

Before we go deeper into this journey, I want you to take a moment to ponder on this. In fact, say it out loud to yourself:

  • COMMUNICATION is wealth.
  • Communication IS wealth.
  • Communication is WEALTH.

We will come back to this later, but keep it in the back of your mind.

 

I began Dan’s High Ticket Closer transformation in the end of January. I was under the assumption that I would just take the course, learn what I needed and start making tons of money. Needless to say, that wasn’t the case.

I was surprised there were a handful of people who were getting kicked out. I wondered why people would invest in something and suddenly be forced to leave. I later learned that they were ‘bad apples’, constantly criticizing, moaning, complaining, whining, and bitching about small things and showing signs of creating a toxic environment. I told myself that as long as I don’t become anything like them and I remain a good student, listen, be coach-able and compliant, interact nicely with the other mentees, I will be able to stay and excel.

(As to keep a fog of mystery and not spoil the journey for anyone, I won’t give much detail to how the transformation is set up.)

I heard of many of the concepts and lessons related to money, psychology, productivity, action taking, and communication. It  was easy to understand and, me being an inspiration and profoundness junkie, I loved everything that was being said and the way it was being said. This was simply a review of the material I already knew, just said in a way that resonated with me.

Direct, not sugar-coated, pure truth.

I never knew how much I secretly enjoyed business and psychology. I also didn’t realize how interrelated these topics were. I came from the experience and idea that business is tough and you need to put in so much work and time just to not become an employee for someone else.

My understanding and experience of business was wide but shallow, and my understanding and experience of psychology was deep but narrow.

This leads me to another segway but first…

I want to quickly ask you four questions:

  1. Have you ever done something with an optimistic mindset?
  2. What was your ultimate purpose of doing that?
  3. How long did you immerse yourself for?
  4. What were the results you obtained?

If you refer to my previous post, you know that I’ve dabbled in a handful of ventures to make money and secure my family and partner. I tried so many things thinking it would work since I’ve seen others have great success. I thought to myself that with my fervor, drive, and intention, I could do it in a handful of months before I saw some results.

Putting in half my day to learn and figure things out, months passed. Still no outcome. So what did I do? I counted my losses and move on. (This adage is understandable to a handful of situations; this isn’t one of them.)

It’s amazing what a mind in scarcity will say in order to justify the choices made:
‘This isn’t for me’, ‘I’ll find something even better’, ‘There’s no money to be made in this, the others just got lucky’, ‘The market is saturated already’, ‘It’s too hard’, ‘It’s probably a scam’ …and those are just the ones that I can remember.

In retrospect, how can a person ever succeed with fulfillment when these are the thoughts that occupy the mind? How can someone who wants to help others and be an inspiration to others deliver value when their mind fosters so much doubt and fear? Do you honestly believe people in positions of authority, power, and play a role in other’s personal development can afford to pass on these kinds of cognitions to their followers and devotees? Surely it has happened in the past, see the results of those kinds of leaders and see how they live their lives.

Going back to “Communication is wealth”…

What you tell others is obviously important as it affects your environment, but from where that comes from matters even more. What dictates the words you use with others is the quality of what you tell yourself; your internal dialogue.

It’s simple to preach big words and advice, then tell yourself you’re doing something great for others by doing so, but take a good hard look at yourself: how are you behaving with yourself? Are you practicing what you preach? Or are you simply regurgitating what you heard because it sounds pleasing and gets positive reactions? Is that what it takes for you to feel good about yourself?

Do you genuinely have conviction and certainty in yourself and what you’re saying?

When you talk to their family and friends, are you really expressing how you feel and what you think? Even if you are, is it getting through to others? Is your point and case really being felt and understood?

What I found to be the most profound is that in the deepest depths in the mind, it’s the same people who actually feel extreme guilt, anger, or self-hatred towards themselves and in their internal dialogue say things like, ‘I don’t deserve this’, ‘I’m not good enough’ ‘I can’t do it’, ‘I’m not smart or strong or good looking enough’, ‘I’m nothing like that person’, ‘I couldn’t do it before, how can I do it now?’, ‘I don’t know if I can do it’, ‘I’m naturally introverted/stupid/shy…’, that preach the most of all. The worst justification is that they consider themselves ‘humble.’

The biggest takeaway I got from this was that people with low self-image not only have a hard time communicating, they tend to also be bad listeners.

People who have a hard time getting their message understood by others similarly don’t get the message others try to give them. They try to scream their message at the other person but still they don’t get it, resulting in fights, debates, quarrels, arguments, even grudges. Finally, they create some sort of justification as to why they don’t understand and end up judging both themselves and the listener. They will say, ‘Clearly, I knew better than this person’, but that’s simply not the case.

How do I know all this? Because this was all me.

Before listening to Dan seriously, I was 100% guilty of doing, saying, thinking, and believing all of this. I wanted to be heard and acknowledged, praised, complimented, seen as someone intelligent and influential, someone worth listening to. I wanted to be the person that knew everything because in my self-worth wallet, that’s all I had.

This was my way of coping with the fact that I didn’t feel good enough, that I was worthless as a son, partner, team member, student, human being. Whatever I wanted to be and do, I couldn’t commit because my lower self kept repeating phrases that were laced with self-denial, self-hatred and self-doubt. There was so much baggage and fear that I overlooked.

After my transformation, am I 100% over this feeling? No. A lot of it has subsided, but reprogramming yourself takes time. Moreover, my awareness has improved significantly. Of course, it’s still in development. How else do you undo over 20 years of terrible programming?

However, with this increased awareness, I can recognize the actions, behaviors, and words of those because I lived that life of nonsense. More importantly, I can notice when these ideas are active because they will be present in my talk, walk, behavior, thoughts, words, and anything that comes out of me.

How can anyone who communicates this way ever achieve a life of wealth and fulfillment? How can they ever be able to come from a place of abundance and help others?

Before you can influence others, you must change the communication software that you run on.

It takes time and it won’t be enough to change everything.

However, it’s the first step of building the foundation to discover what you truly are.

I’ll leave you all with these two videos.

 

This second video includes 10 minutes of affirmations that you tell yourself out loud. Even if you don’t think it has any effect on your psychology, try telling yourself these phrases and see how much resistance you face.

 

If you get any value out of this or profound moments, I’d love for you to share your insights.

In addition to more posts, I am leaving an open invitation to talk to anyone about where in their life they feel stuck. Perhaps we can have a conversation or I can even address it in a future post. I want to add as much value to people as I can and destroy my lower self.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Your Self-Image Matters

This is one of the first lessons that I had to learn before even understanding the fundamentals of wealth consciousness.

Ever since I began working at the age of 18, I wanted to become a good employee so that I would be favored. I’ve worked in a variety of jobs since then, including sales, administrative assistant, package handle, cashier and business assistant, tutor, teacher, academic and performance coach, and I’ve gone through tons of ventures, including network marketing, life coaching, marketer, affiliate marketing, blogger, (almost became an electrical engineer) and many others.

My thinking behind this originally was if I can learn many different skills and be involved in many things, I will accumulate all sorts of knowledge and I will be a valuable asset. Certainly, I learned many things and was able to create bare, but workable, foundations. However, as I looked at many of the experts in those fields, they’ve spent many years becoming proficient and eventual experts in their field.  I didn’t want to wait for many months to be successful and make money so after a few months of not seeing the results I wanted, I moved on to the next thing.

What did I tell myself? “This just isn’t for me.”

So I looked for the next thing…

and then the next…

and the next…

the next…

next…

You get the point. I spent years dabbling through various aspects of business. I kept seeing people doing well after a few months. I become overly optimistic and told myself, “If they can do it, so can I.” That was the starting point. Overtime, as I had to do more work and needed to be patient for results, I grew tired of waiting. I told myself that this doesn’t work for me and I should do something else.

Most people call this normal, that we are finding the things that we like to do, and to a degree, it is absolutely true.

I wasn’t a big fan of network marketing or package handling, but I somewhat enjoyed marketing, teaching ESL, and being an assistant in a business. I especially loved sales, coaching, and writing from the heart.

It wasn’t until last December that I once again started searching for ‘Ways to Make Money’ for the millionth time. This time, I noticed something new.

I scrolled down to a TedX talk from this guy in a red suit. I wasn’t overly crazy about motivational speakers because they all seemed to talk about the same thing.

And what the hell was he wearing? Honestly, I was more fascinated. Still a tad judgy but I was willing to listen to his message.

That was the first video I watched that afternoon.

After 5 hours of binge watching his videos, I looked up at the clock and thought to myself, “…there is no one like this out there who talks about this kind of stuff, and in the manner he does it, to boot.”

Just his presence alone screamed at me that he is charismatic, intelligent, decisive, and obviously experienced. Also has a case of sailor’s mouth (He cusses quite a bit) and has an accent, but it only enhanced my perception of him. Later, I found out he emigrated from Hong Kong.

Aside from that, he was literally giving away information that I thought was absolutely invaluable. To me, people ask to be paid before giving away this kind of information. It made me uncomfortable that he was just delivering it all for free.

I spent so much time learning what I did and I never wanted to give it up unless people would pay for it or I would get some form of recognition for it.

What was it that separated him from all the other business figures?

(I didn’t figure this out until way later, but I’ll get to that in a later post.)

I knew that if I ever decided to learn from anyone about business, it absolutely had to be HIM.

After a week of more binge watching his videos, reading his books, and learning up about this man, Dan Lok, I ran into what would be considered another major turning point of my life.

Dan was offering a course in which he would personally mentor a select amount of students in learning what he calls a ‘high income skill.’ I knew if I wanted to work for him, I had to take action NOW.

I watched the webinar and got into it, was so excited to get started and begin learning.

The only catch: the course is $2,500.

The pricing really tore me apart. Not just because I was going broke, but because I didn’t even have the full amount of money. What was I going to do?

There was only one thing to do: I had to ask my mom, whom I was afraid of asking for anymore money.

(A little about my background: I live with my mom and 2 younger brothers. My mom doesn’t make a ton of money but we can survive well with what we have. Asking her for money felt like one of the worst things I could’ve done to her.)

I told myself that once I learn the skill, I will make the money back and give her interest. That’s exactly what I told her and she agreed. She basically handed me her savings envelope.

You would think I’d be excited to start learning from my mentor. The truth was, I felt so guilty asking for financial help. I felt my worth as a son/man dwindled. At the same time, I felt like for the first time I received true support from my mom. I never felt anyone ever supported my ideas as I was the weirdo of the family, the black sheep of society. Having her agree to my request gave me a sense of confidence and gratitude.

Once I got the money, I just deposited it all and paid for the course, without hesitation.


From this experience, I reflected deeply on my perceptions of money.

Fundamentally, I had the wrong idea of what money was and how to acquire it. I can’t even remember what I used to think about it.

When you ‘try’ to make money, it never comes. Even if it does, it’s never enjoyable. As Dan says, money comes as a byproduct of the value that you deliver into the marketplace. In other words, when you help people with a problem they’re having or find a way to make things easier for them, money usually follows.

More importantly, when you ‘need’ money and dwell on the fact that you don’t have any or much at all, your frequency becomes incredibly low. You develop your scarcity mindset. Unfortunately, a lot of the world remains in this state.

Principle 1: Your self-image determines the limits of your self-worth, which directly affects your wealth.

To watch the video that got me started, click here:

 

 

 

 

 

 

Where Have I Been?

First of all, I would like to take a moment to thank you for following my blog. In spite of the fact I can’t put faces and personalities to profiles and usernames, I’m grateful for how many ever people actively read my posts.

So where have I been? More importantly, what have I gone through in these past several months?

My blog has been and is still devoted to sharing and exploring all aspects of spirituality as well as techniques and frames of mind that break away from our past selves and push us towards being what we desire to become. As long as we hold onto our past ideas and refuse to update our cognitions and behaviors, we will always dream of becoming something better than our current selves but will never get there. For far too long, I lived in a mindset of perpetual scarcity that put me in a space of disengagement from life and faced countless anxieties about my existence as a result.

These past few months I’ve learned so much about myself and I’ve barely scratched the surface. I have so much to share and hope you will be patient as I find ways to illustrate my experiences, ideas, and the techniques I’ve learned along the way.

To address the first question, I have been immersed in learning about wealth and accumulating business acumen from my mentor. What exactly do money and business have to do with spirituality?

The manner in which you engage with anything in life has spirituality at the heart of it. In a nutshell, how you engage with anything, including family, friends, ideas, opinions, yourself, money, food, literally anything, reflects directly what’s going on internally within you. Every day, this principle becomes more and more apparent within me. With such awareness, it’s no wonder why ‘enlightenment’ seems impossible and too abstract for others to grasp.

The second question is much harder to answer. A transformation never really begins or ends: it’s happening. When you look from your past until your present moment, you may see stark differences. As we all know, an individual’s journey is never over. The question then becomes, what am I going to become?

As you reflect each day, ask yourself these questions:

What am I doing? Why am I doing it? Does it serve me any purpose and the life I want to live?

I used to feel that I should simply do what I love and the wealth and money will come; that if I just follow my heart and passions, then I will find myself and my purpose.

The truth is the self is never found. You will never ‘find’ yourself.

The self is created from the inside out.

I dedicate this chapter of my posts to my mentor, Dan Lok, who has not only given me the tools to improve my financial situation, understand people, and communicate better but who also has shown me what it means to be a leader, to add value to others’ lives, how to impact countless lives, and what it means to be the best of the best.

I will do my best to be of value and service to anyone who comes into my life.

 

 

 

 

 

Think Like An Aghori

Chances are, if you are reading this, you have access to technology and Internet. You likely live in or near an industrialized area. You require food for nourishment, so you go to the supermarket or your local farmers market. Such is the back bone of modern civilization. With the advancement and convenience of these technologies, we’ve become much more aware of what is going on outside of us: news, weather, latest trends, gossip, and other things that people share. We are learning to make more informed decisions, follow our intellect, use facts and manage our lives.

As a result of this convenience, we have also become very alienated from ourselves. In our world of commodities, we’ve sucked ourselves in pleasure. We avoid negative stimuli and things that are completely out of our comfort zones. We’ve lost touch with our origin and spirit.

So what does this do with an aghori? What is an aghori?

Aghoris are humans that have completely renounced their pleasures and comforts in order to connect with God. They reside in India, doing unconventional things that modern man condemns as barbaric and insane. This include things like walking around naked, wallowing in cremation ground ash, eating only out of a human skull, even eating human body parts.

Media portrays these people as sickened, deluded, disgusting, related synonyms, to the extent that it’s fascinating to see. For the majority, the life of an Aghori would be the last thing we’d want to end up becoming. How could people want to give up their material comforts? How could they leave their families and jobs? How could they give all that up, for THIS?

In short, the mind of an aghori is limitless. Outside from their bizarre appearance, aghoris are actually incredibly intelligent and compassionate. They know how modern man has vicariously created an idea of life, a kind of idea that separates the mind and body. Ideas that rationalize man goes through, accept the hate and division that happen between others, the duality man faces today.

Instead of procrastinating, going to counseling, suppressing, ignoring, accepting this tension is normal, Aghoris do the opposite: they will literally jump into their fears without a second thought or hesitation. Anything they feel negativity towards, they will embrace it until the feelings melt down. If they realize they don’t like someone, they’ll find that person and release the negativity. If they fear their own demise, they’ll go to a cremation ground and embrace the ash. Aghoris know the truth, the mind is the lock and key to your enlightenment.

Your mind makes the images you fear. Your mind can also disspell the images.

What do you think? Post below.

Opt for a Cold Shower

One of the most intimate, relaxing times of the day is getting into a hot shower and just soaking in the heat for 20 minutes. Perhaps there have been occasions when you were taking a hot shower and someone abruptly flushes the toilet, giving you a relatively unpleasant sensation of cold water. Maybe someone before you took their time in the shower and when it was your turn, there was no hot water left. As adverse as it sounds, it could’ve been a blessing in disguise.

Many people don’t realize the impact of immersing in hot water for an extended period of time. Hot water tends to dry out our skin and hair which tends to cause issues like constantly dry skin and hair that falls out. A panacea to this problem is doing the exact opposite: taking a cold shower. Not only can it prevent constantly dry skin and lessen the amount of hair being shed (not to mention saving some money on your next water bill), but it has tons of scientifically proven benefits:

1. Improve circulation – When the cold hits your body, it stimulates the circulatory system. the blood goes straight to the organs to keep them warm and running, especially the arteries in the heart.

2. Lose weight – When researching this, I learned that there are two kinds of fat tissues found in the body: white fat and brown fat. We want to get rid of the white fat that is accumulated through carbs and food, eventually getting trapped in our body. The brown fat keeps our body warm. It also gets activated when surged by cold conditions. This process removes white fat tissue and generates more brown fat.

3. Increase testosterone – Ever wonder why the male testicles and scrotum are outside of the body? That’s because they need a cool temperature to allow sperm to thrive. The DNA is temperature sensitive and with hot showers, can have a lasting impact on male fertility.

4. Elevate mood – Acting as oxidative stress, cold showers force your body to adapt and breathing improves drastically. In the process, your body and mind harden that will heighten your threshold of stress. It has been found that cold showers increase electrical impulses in the brain, producing an anti-depressive effect. Overall, mood and emotions become higher.

5. More energy – Rather than drink a cup of coffee, a cold shower jolts the whole body awake. Just give it a try and see for yourself. However, this tends to last only for a few hours until it’s practiced regularly.

6. Strengthen immunity – It’s been shown that cold showers increase the rate and activation of white blood cells in the immune system. In addition, cold showers contract the vessels in your lymphatic system and exposure to hot water relaxes the vessels. In alternation, they remove toxins.

7. Ease muscle soreness – After a long, vigorous workout, athletes tend to take ice baths or cold showers. Doing this lessens the soreness one feels in their body. After a workout at home or at the gym, a cold shower can take off some of that delayed soreness.

Give it a try for a few days. For those that want to ease in, reduce the amount of hot water exposure, then finish off with cold water. In essence, you should end with cold water. Go for 30 seconds, then 1 minute, 2 minutes, and so on.

Share your questions and experiences!

Thyroid Problems? Try Ashwagandha: With the Strength of a Horse

Millions of Americans (millions more around the world) suffer from a medley of bodily ailments which come from the modern day life style. People have to deal with long and stressful work days and nutrient-deficient foods which contain tons of additives and chemicals. As a result, a plethora of health issues arise, most common issues include high blood pressure, thyroid and hormonal imbalance, increased anxiety and stress, emotional problems, low immunity, fatigue, diabetes, cancer, and the list goes on. Rather than go into the severity of these problems, which I’m certain you know of, I will get straight to a solution.

In Ayurvedic medicine, herbs and roots are used to heal ailments in the body. There are hundreds of herbs used. Ashwagandha is considered an adaptogenic herb, which means it is used for its healing abilities that can stabilize physiological functions. The phrase ‘the strength of a horse’ is used commonly due to the herb’s ability to strengthen the immune system after an illness. With a simple Google search, you can find tons of studies done on ashwagandha and the effects it has on the body, which include but are not limited to:

  • improved thyroid function
  • improved immune system function
  • hormone balance
  • improved insulin and cortisol levels
  • improved brain cell regeneration
  • improved stamina and energy levels
  • and much more

I would love to hear about your experiences with this herb.

Don’t Delude Yourself Into Problems

After doing the completion process, there will be so much clarity and understanding. You will feel reborn and no longer shackled to the emotional baggage you’ve previously subjected yourself through for so long. This contrast is exactly what life is: going through a situation and when realizing the solution, understanding there was never a problem. In truth, everything you feel about life and yourself is nothing more than a projection. We don’t see stars as they are currently, we are looking at them as they were in a point in their past. The light simply takes a long time to reach us. In the same way, we don’t see ourselves currently, we see ourselves in relation to our past. Whether it’s positive or negative, there isn’t right and wrong. There simply is.

In-completions do not create dilemmas or problems. They create delusions. These delusions become the ruler with which you measure and compare experiences. It’s through this lens that you experience problems. When you remove the in-completion, you see a larger scope of reality. That doesn’t mean new in-completions can’t emerge. There is one piece of truth that must be told, and that is don’t assume every problem and issue you have with yourself is a product of your in-completions and environmental triggers. No problem comes from outside of you.

There is a simple answer. That is, all big dilemmas in life are caused by casual thoughts. Don’t ever think desperation, anxiety, and dilemmas are caused by the depth of your in-completions. By thinking this, you will only add on another in-completion. Your over-thinking and over-analysis generates this bi-product of dilemma. Not only does all that over-thinking create these problems, it uses up glucose that your brain uses for other functions. This results in feeling tired and lethargic.

Simply, being aware is enough to put some of those dilemmas to rest. Meditate. Smile. Be active. Complete.

The Conspiracy of the Ego: Part 7.

By this point, you should feel as if a large load has been lifted off your shoulders. Perhaps the reliving portion hasn’t completely set in, but that is okay. Keep trying and persist until the emotions from that event leave your system.

The final step in the completion process may be a challenge for most people. For the final step, you must confront the people or person that’s involved in your in-completions.

For many people, this step will be neglected which isn’t terrible, but it is this step that will truly liberate you and the other party.

When you talk to the other person, you ask them to simply listen to what you have to say. Talk about each relevant event and what you went through. When you do this, don’t attack, hurl abuse, or harm them in any way. You tell them the situation in the space that you experienced it and as objective as possible. Use phrases like “I felt like….”, “When *this* happened, I did *this*”, and so on. At the end of your talk, firmly declare to yourself and the other that you’ll never allow this emotion or experience to interfere with your life again. Chances are the other person will respond in 4 ways:

  1. The other person will have been also affected by the experience and will also want to say something about it. Usually, they will also feel very relieved at the end.
  2. The other person will feel offended and try to attack or insult you. Don’t entertain the other part when this happens; just thank them for listening and give them space.
  3. The other person will be confused as to why you’re even talking about this. You can tell them the truth. Keep it personal.
  4. The other person won’t care.

Regardless of the reaction, this exercise gives both parties some form of relief. This is ultimately to give you a deeper sense of closure and really get rid of the engrams that remain in your bio-memory. Do this with emotion, you have to feel the emotions rise when you confront the other party. In the event that the other party is deceased, you can use a picture of them.

This completion process is not created by me. I learned it from my master, Paramahamsa Nithyananda, and am simply spreading the technique for all to use. My master himself also is not the creator of this technique. It can be found in the Agamas, one of the Hindu scriptures.

Please share anything related to this post and process.

 

 

 

The Conspiracy of the Ego: Part 6.

So far in the Completion Process, we have went over the following:

  1. What are the inner, outer, others’ and life images we have
  2. What are the inner, outer, others’ and life images we want to have
  3. The emotions that are in the gap of the images we have and the images we want
  4. The associated experiences and senses that get triggered

We have written all of these down in detail and given the amount of integrity and authenticity you’ve put, even more memories and feelings should have surfaced. Chances are you have figured out there are a lot of contradicting feelings and ideas you have internally. The way you want to be is nowhere near where you are currently. It’s your decision to allow these emotions and experiences to hold you back from expressing the self you want to project. So now that at least most of the major incidences have been exposed, what do we do next?

Simply, you will relive each incident. Reliving is relieving.

In mediation, you will go back to each incident. Go back to that point in time, relating to the best of your ability the age, the mindset, the beliefs, the clothes, the senses, EVERYTHING that happened in that moment.

I have to make this clear: remembering is NOT reliving! Don’t listen to your mind when it tries to rationalize the feelings or experience!

The difference between remembering and reliving is time. When you remember, you don’t relate anymore to that part of your past because time has passed and your dimensions have changed. When you relive, you assimilate those dimensions of your past and go through what it is you went through. This is the most difficult part of the process because we may have forgotten a lot of the details. The idea is to assimilate as much as you can and consciously go through the experience again and again until the emotions associated with that memory pass through your system.

There will be times when emotions easily slip out of you. There will also be moments when traumatic events are relived in the body. You will go through the emotional turmoil and that is the point. Consciously be aware of this, but allow the emotions to come out. Don’t hold back. Just observe yourself, your mind, and whatever it is you are going through. Observe the same way you would observe a familiar stranger going through hard times, without judgement or input. Simply allow it to happen in you.

A few other things:

You will have to relive the experiences more than once, at least 5 times. The emotions need to be broken down to the point they no longer have any control over your will.

Be comfortable and well-rested when you do this.

Your mind will try to take you away from the process by justifying the experiences. It will tell you that it’s not your fault, you were young, it was a long time ago, you learned from your mistakes, etc…DO NOT HEED YOUR MIND. GO THROUGH WITH THE PROCESS. If those experiences really didn’t matter anymore, they wouldn’t be affecting the choices you make and the experience you undergo now. There is no relationship between the experiences of ‘You’ in the past and the experiences of ‘You’ now.

If you do this exercise intensely, consciously, and authentically, you should feel lighter mentally and physically. You should feel as if loads of weight have been removed from your system. Many people also undergo physical changes. In my experience, my lower-body increased in flexibility. The thoughts that you have have an effect on your physical body, they create blockages and can remove them as well.

There is still one more part…

Share your experiences in the comments!