This is one of the first lessons that I had to learn before even understanding the fundamentals of wealth consciousness.
Ever since I began working at the age of 18, I wanted to become a good employee so that I would be favored. I’ve worked in a variety of jobs since then, including sales, administrative assistant, package handle, cashier and business assistant, tutor, teacher, academic and performance coach, and I’ve gone through tons of ventures, including network marketing, life coaching, marketer, affiliate marketing, blogger, (almost became an electrical engineer) and many others.
My thinking behind this originally was if I can learn many different skills and be involved in many things, I will accumulate all sorts of knowledge and I will be a valuable asset. Certainly, I learned many things and was able to create bare, but workable, foundations. However, as I looked at many of the experts in those fields, they’ve spent many years becoming proficient and eventual experts in their field. I didn’t want to wait for many months to be successful and make money so after a few months of not seeing the results I wanted, I moved on to the next thing.
What did I tell myself? “This just isn’t for me.”
So I looked for the next thing…
and then the next…
and the next…
You get the point. I spent years dabbling through various aspects of business. I kept seeing people doing well after a few months. I become overly optimistic and told myself, “If they can do it, so can I.” That was the starting point. Overtime, as I had to do more work and needed to be patient for results, I grew tired of waiting. I told myself that this doesn’t work for me and I should do something else.
Most people call this normal, that we are finding the things that we like to do, and to a degree, it is absolutely true.
I wasn’t a big fan of network marketing or package handling, but I somewhat enjoyed marketing, teaching ESL, and being an assistant in a business. I especially loved sales, coaching, and writing from the heart.
It wasn’t until last December that I once again started searching for ‘Ways to Make Money’ for the millionth time. This time, I noticed something new.
I scrolled down to a TedX talk from this guy in a red suit. I wasn’t overly crazy about motivational speakers because they all seemed to talk about the same thing.
And what the hell was he wearing? Honestly, I was more fascinated. Still a tad judgy but I was willing to listen to his message.
That was the first video I watched that afternoon.
After 5 hours of binge watching his videos, I looked up at the clock and thought to myself, “…there is no one like this out there who talks about this kind of stuff, and in the manner he does it, to boot.”
Just his presence alone screamed at me that he is charismatic, intelligent, decisive, and obviously experienced. Also has a case of sailor’s mouth (He cusses quite a bit) and has an accent, but it only enhanced my perception of him. Later, I found out he emigrated from Hong Kong.
Aside from that, he was literally giving away information that I thought was absolutely invaluable. To me, people ask to be paid before giving away this kind of information. It made me uncomfortable that he was just delivering it all for free.
I spent so much time learning what I did and I never wanted to give it up unless people would pay for it or I would get some form of recognition for it.
What was it that separated him from all the other business figures?
(I didn’t figure this out until way later, but I’ll get to that in a later post.)
I knew that if I ever decided to learn from anyone about business, it absolutely had to be HIM.
After a week of more binge watching his videos, reading his books, and learning up about this man, Dan Lok, I ran into what would be considered another major turning point of my life.
Dan was offering a course in which he would personally mentor a select amount of students in learning what he calls a ‘high income skill.’ I knew if I wanted to work for him, I had to take action NOW.
I watched the webinar and got into it, was so excited to get started and begin learning.
The only catch: the course is $2,500.
The pricing really tore me apart. Not just because I was going broke, but because I didn’t even have the full amount of money. What was I going to do?
There was only one thing to do: I had to ask my mom, whom I was afraid of asking for anymore money.
(A little about my background: I live with my mom and 2 younger brothers. My mom doesn’t make a ton of money but we can survive well with what we have. Asking her for money felt like one of the worst things I could’ve done to her.)
I told myself that once I learn the skill, I will make the money back and give her interest. That’s exactly what I told her and she agreed. She basically handed me her savings envelope.
You would think I’d be excited to start learning from my mentor. The truth was, I felt so guilty asking for financial help. I felt my worth as a son/man dwindled. At the same time, I felt like for the first time I received true support from my mom. I never felt anyone ever supported my ideas as I was the weirdo of the family, the black sheep of society. Having her agree to my request gave me a sense of confidence and gratitude.
Once I got the money, I just deposited it all and paid for the course, without hesitation.
From this experience, I reflected deeply on my perceptions of money.
Fundamentally, I had the wrong idea of what money was and how to acquire it. I can’t even remember what I used to think about it.
When you ‘try’ to make money, it never comes. Even if it does, it’s never enjoyable. As Dan says, money comes as a byproduct of the value that you deliver into the marketplace. In other words, when you help people with a problem they’re having or find a way to make things easier for them, money usually follows.
More importantly, when you ‘need’ money and dwell on the fact that you don’t have any or much at all, your frequency becomes incredibly low. You develop your scarcity mindset. Unfortunately, a lot of the world remains in this state.
Principle 1: Your self-image determines the limits of your self-worth, which directly affects your wealth.
To watch the video that got me started, click here: